From Sofia Alvarez
36 • San Diego, CA • High School Counselor • Recently Separated
“I can spot the signs in my students: late homework, emotional withdrawal, sudden outbursts. It took me longer to notice them in myself.”
I’ve spent over a decade helping teenagers cope with family instability. I always knew what questions to ask. I thought I’d built a wall between my work and my own life. Until my marriage started to unravel—and I became the one forgetting appointments and waking up anxious.
When we decided to separate, I assumed we’d keep it civil. But stress doesn’t always bring out the best in people. Suddenly we were arguing about pick-ups, medical bills, and who told the kids what.
I didn’t want to involve lawyers right away. I didn’t want my children to feel like they were evidence. But I also needed structure. Something neutral. Something I could trust.
A fellow school counselor told me about Splitifi. I signed up that night.
What I found was more than tools. It was relief. A shared calendar that didn’t feel weaponized. A space to organize conversations before they turned into court filings. A place to breathe between decisions.
Now, I recommend it to the parents of the kids I counsel. Quietly. Gently. I say, “There’s a way to make this easier for everyone.” I say it like someone who’s been there. Because I have.
—Sofia
