You opened the door, took the envelope, and now your stomach’s in knots. You’ve been served. Whether you were expecting it or not, this is a critical moment — and what you do next matters more than what just happened.
1. Don’t Panic — You Have Time
You typically have 20 days from the date you were served to file a formal response (called an Answer). Missing that deadline can result in a default judgment, meaning the court may grant your ex everything they asked for.
Use this moment to slow down, not spin out. Time is limited, but manageable — if you act now.
2. Read What You’ve Been Served Carefully
The packet usually includes:
- A Petition for Dissolution of Marriage
- Summons with deadlines and filing instructions
- Any emergency motions (custody, support, protective orders)
Check for court dates or hearing notices. Mark them immediately. Splitifi can help you build a timeline so nothing falls through the cracks.
3. Gather Your Financial Info
You’ll likely need to file a financial affidavit within 45 days. That means pay stubs, tax returns, account balances, and debt summaries. Start organizing now. It saves time, money, and panic later.
4. Decide: Lawyer, DIY, or Hybrid?
If it’s contested — custody, money, property — a lawyer may be necessary. If it’s amicable or you can’t afford representation, consider a guided DIY approach using tech.
Splitifi’s AI assistant helps you draft responses, track deadlines, and plan your next move — no legal background required.
5. File Your Response
This is called an “Answer” or a “Counterpetition.” You’re telling the court whether you agree or disagree with what your ex has requested — and making your own requests, if needed.
You’ll file it with the clerk of court (often online), and serve it to your ex or their lawyer. Do not skip this. It’s the difference between having a voice and getting steamrolled.
6. Start Documenting Everything
From this point forward, every message, exchange, missed payment, or custody concern needs to be logged. Use the Splitifi Custody Log to track communication and behavior patterns.
7. Get a Game Plan
The legal process doesn’t care how shocked or exhausted you are. But Splitifi does. We’re here to help you stabilize, strategize, and stay a step ahead.
Get help with your first filing, organize your documents, and take control — even if you’re still reeling from the shock.
