Thinking about filing for divorce — or just found out your spouse is? The beginning is where most people freeze. Confusion, fear, logistics. These five moves will put you back in control and keep you from making mistakes you’ll regret later.
1. Get Your Financial House in Order
Before anyone files anything, start documenting. Gather pay stubs, tax returns, account balances, credit card statements, mortgage docs, and retirement accounts. Make copies. Back them up digitally and securely.
Even if your divorce is peaceful, documentation equals protection.
2. Secure Your Access
- Open a personal bank account and email address
- Change passwords for all personal accounts
- Turn off shared iCloud, Google, or location tracking
- Remove your name from any shared devices or plans
This isn’t sneaky — it’s smart. You need digital and financial boundaries before emotional ones can hold.
3. Start a Private Log
Whether your ex is toxic or reasonable, start tracking: exchanges, conflicts, custody issues, financial changes, conversations. Judges don’t want drama — they want facts. Use Splitifi’s custody log to track everything privately, securely, and with time stamps.
4. Think Strategically, Not Emotionally
Don’t threaten divorce during a fight. Don’t file because you’re angry today. The person who wins in divorce isn’t the one who yells — it’s the one who plans. Use an AI assistant or legal checklists to start preparing in silence.
Splitifi’s AI assistant can help you decide if, when, and how to file — and what happens next.
5. Protect the Kids (and the Narrative)
Don’t tell your children everything at once. Don’t badmouth your ex. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. The way you behave in the first 30 days will shape the rest of the case — and your child’s memory of it.
You don’t have to have everything figured out. But you do need a calm, structured plan — and the right tools to carry it out.
Start here. Start now. Start smart. Splitifi is ready when you are.
