From Reverend Thomas Bell
61 • Savannah, GA • Pastor • Married 34 Years
“People expect spiritual strength. But sometimes the strongest thing you can do is admit you’re scared.”
I’ve officiated over 80 weddings. I’ve sat beside husbands who couldn’t stop crying and wives who couldn’t stay any longer. I’ve prayed with children caught between houses and helped parents draft forgiveness letters instead of affidavits.
I never thought I’d need any of that for myself.
My wife and I raised four kids. We built a life around the church, the school, the community. And somewhere between counseling others and running ministries, we stopped communicating at home.
Now, I find myself in the unfamiliar seat—behind the defendant’s table. It’s humbling. And disorienting.
A deacon’s daughter told me about Splitifi. She said it helped her through a high-conflict separation. I didn’t know if it was for me. But when the first filing hit and I couldn’t organize the records, I gave it a try.
I don’t need drama. I need data. I need to walk into mediation with grace, facts, and clarity—not emotion.
Splitifi lets me do that. My congregation doesn’t know the details. But they’ve seen a shift. I speak now from a deeper place—not just faith, but firsthand experience.
This platform didn’t just help me prepare for court. It helped me preserve my dignity in the process.
—Rev. Bell
