From Tessa Morgan
46 • Boulder, CO • Licensed Therapist • Mother of Three
“I help people regulate emotion for a living. But nothing prepares you for raising kids with someone who uses the court as a weapon.”
We finalized our divorce two years ago. I thought it was over. The paperwork was signed. We agreed on custody. I even felt hopeful.
What I didn’t realize was how often “final” is just a legal word. Not an emotional reality. Not a behavioral one.
My ex doesn’t yell or threaten. He files. Motions. Objections. Requests for modification. Petitions for enforcement.
At first, I thought I was overreacting. Then I started tracking it. Twenty-nine filings in eighteen months. Nearly all during school breaks, holidays, or big life moments.
My kids see it now. They’re old enough to notice the pattern. And I realized—I needed to protect them not just from the conflict, but from the narrative.
I found Splitifi through a referral from a colleague who works with high-conflict co-parents. I wasn’t looking for a legal platform. I was looking for relief. I didn’t expect to find structure.
Now I track every court interaction, tone-filter every message, and build a custody timeline that shows the full picture. The filings haven’t stopped. But the judge now sees them in context.
Sometimes being heard isn’t about being loud. It’s about being organized. That’s what Splitifi gave me.
—Tessa
