Why We Love Sincerely Divorced: Divorce Support That Heals
Divorce is not just a procedural ending. It is a rupture: identity, rhythm, social standing, and your sense of self all break open. Many systems treat divorce like a wound to be sealed. Legal systems focus on custody and property. Therapy focuses on trauma and closure. But few structures acknowledge divorce as a lived, ongoing crisis.
Sincerely Divorced is a courageous response to that crisis. It isn’t content. It’s care. It isn’t a platform. It’s a presence. And it has become a lifeline for tens of thousands who feel unseen inside the system.
This piece explores the mission, growth, and irreplaceable value that Bethany Pace and Hillary Livingston bring to the modern divorce ecosystem.
The Origin Story
Bethany Pace and Hillary Livingston met as colleagues at Towson University. Both were professional event planners, organizing ceremonies, commencements, and institutional milestones. But their personal lives told a different story. Behind the polished events and professional demeanor, both women were privately unraveling.
They were each going through divorces. Not quiet ones. The kind that leave you shaking in parking lots, staring at text messages that never come, wondering who you are now that the life you planned is gone.
Their turning point came on a phone call. Bethany was outside Safeway. Hillary was outside Walgreens. Both were crying.
That shared moment of collapse sparked something profound: a realization that they weren’t alone. And that perhaps others needed to know that, too.
What Bethany and Hillary Built at Sincerely Divorced
Hope Notes
It started with one handwritten message. Today, Hope Notes are mailed to people around the world. They say things like “You are not a failure” and “This is not the end of your story.” People hang them on refrigerators, tuck them in journals, and reread them before court.
Live Community Events
From one-attendee Zoom calls to sold-out meetups, their in-person and virtual gatherings are a cornerstone of the brand. These include yoga sessions, writing circles, and peer-led support groups.
Substantive Social Media
They use Instagram not for aesthetics but for education. Topics include DARVO, trauma cycles, court safety planning, faith deconstruction, and boundary fatigue. Their posts are clinically informed but never condescending.
Affordable Resources
Their e-book, What Matters to Children of Divorce at Any Age or Stage, is available for just $7. They also offer trauma-informed digital workshops and courses that rival paid therapy groups in quality.
Where They Sit in the Divorce Support Ecosystem
Sincerely Divorced is not a law firm. It is not a therapist directory. It is not a substitute for either. It is the missing rail in the support system—the one that catches people as they fall through procedural cracks and emotional crevices.
- For survivors of coercive control, they offer language.
- For pro se litigants, they offer encouragement.
- For parents navigating faith trauma, they offer reframe.
- For those without access to therapy, they offer normalization.
Splitifi complements this by offering data-driven solutions for filings, compliance, and document structure. The two exist in parallel: Splitifi builds scaffolding. Sincerely Divorced builds sanctuary.
Where Splitifi Ends, Sincerely Divorced Begins
The Affidavit Rehearsal
A Splitifi user builds their declaration, organizes evidence, and then practices their voice with help from a Sincerely Divorced workshop.
Boundary Reset
One father used Bethany’s Instagram series on emotional abuse to identify toxic custody dynamics and reassert legal boundaries.
Queer Parent Advocacy
A nonbinary parent found both clarity through Splitifi’s parenting plan builder and affirmation through Hillary’s lens of radical inclusion.
What Community-Led Divorce Support Looks Like
| Organization | Focus | Impact |
|---|---|---|
| Women’s Divorce Recovery | Language access and cultural trauma recovery | Safe navigation for BIPOC women |
| The Divorce Recovery Collective | LGBTQIA+ legal literacy | Legal prep without identity compromise |
| Peer Pods (via Splitifi) | Cross-state co-navigation using digital scaffolding | Micro-communities that lower re-litigation rates |
Table reflects current informal support systems that fill in the gap between formal legal services and emotional recovery needs.
The Future of Peer Divorce Support at Sincerely Divorced
- Podcast with lived experience episodes
- National meetups and touring workshops
- Expanded trauma-informed curriculum
- More multilingual Hope Notes and identity-specific resources
They are not building a brand. They are building a refuge.