Why We Love Sincerely Divorced: How Bethany and Hillary Fill the Support Gap
Divorce is more than paperwork and court dates. It fractures identity, routines, and the social safety net that makes hard things survivable. Traditional systems treat divorce as a legal or therapeutic problem. People experience it as a human crisis that requires structure and support at the same time.
Sincerely Divorced fills that gap. Co-founders Bethany Pace and Hillary Livingston built an intentionally human framework that transforms shame and isolation into agency and connection. This article explains the problem they solve, the model they run, and how it complements the structural clarity of Splitifi Divorce OS.
Use this as a map. You can plan your case in Splitifi, then process the feelings and rebuild identity with Sincerely Divorced. That is full stack support.
The Real Problem: Isolation in the Divorce Process
Systems are fragmented
Your attorney handles filings, not flashbacks. A therapist sees patterns, not hearing schedules. Friends offer love, not procedure. The result is a set of well meaning parts that do not add up to a stable whole.
The support gap
Without a calibrated peer community, people can feel defective or alone. Isolation lowers follow through, raises anxiety, and makes clear thinking harder in deadlines and hearings.
That is the context Sincerely Divorced steps into. Not to replace therapy or law, but to stabilize the human, so the legal can proceed with clarity.
Who Bethany and Hillary Are, and Why It Matters
Bethany Pace and Hillary Livingston are best friends turned founders who decided to normalize divorce as a hard season, not a personal failure. Both rebuilt their lives and brought people with them. Their credibility is lived, their model is disciplined, and their growth is earned.
| Founder | Background | Focus Areas |
|---|---|---|
| Bethany Pace | Journalism and education | Midlife divorce, faith nuance, identity after long marriages |
| Hillary Livingston | Psychology and human development | Gaslighting and emotional abuse, SAHM dynamics, boundary setting |
Their combined lens helps translate abstract pain into usable steps. That is why the community reads, shows up, and stays.
What They Have Built and How It Works
- Hope Notes and real talk: The first note was a lifeline between friends, then a ritual, then a movement. The message is simple and subversive in an achievement culture. You are not a failure. You are still a whole human.
- Curated events: Yoga to reconnect to the body. Coffee sessions that normalize court prep and custody logistics. Zoom groups to widen access beyond their Baltimore home base. People drive or fly because the space is safe and calibrated.
- Digital presence with precision: Instagram and TikTok that teach, not perform. Concepts like DARVO, boundary fatigue, and identity loss are explained in practical terms, with humor that reduces shame without trivializing grief. See @sincerelydivorced.
- Media recognition: Regional and local media have spotlighted the model and the Hope Notes initiative, including Baltimore Magazine and coverage on WMAR 2 News.
- Affordable tools: A five dollar e-book and accessible courses that help people who cannot afford therapy or frequent legal consults, but still need guidance and strategy.
Where Splitifi Ends, Sincerely Divorced Begins
Splitifi handles the system. Filings, deadlines, discovery normalization, and evidence organization. Sincerely Divorced holds the person. Grief, doubt, panic, identity. You should not have to pick between them. Together they resolve a full problem.
Structure and safety
Map deadlines and evidence in Splitifi. Process fear and meaning in a Hope Note workshop. The system gets done, the human does not get lost.
Planning and permission to feel
A litigant can build an affidavit draft in Splitifi, then rehearse language and presence with peers, arriving in court prepared and calm.
Why This Model Works
Most divorce support is binary. Academic or anecdotal. Lawyerly or soft. Expensive or vague. Sincerely Divorced bridges that divide with clear language, low cost access, and calibrated community standards.
- They respect intelligence. They do not dumb it down.
- They center safety. Not performative allyship.
- They provide tools. Not just talk. Not just vibes.
- They practice referral discipline. When something is outside scope, they say so and point to therapy, law, or a platform like Divorce OS.
Case Scenarios and Real Impact
Quiet wins tell the story of a community that works.
- A mother prepares her declaration in Splitifi, practices with Hillary, and enters court composed.
- A father recognizes gaslighting after a clear DARVO breakdown from Bethany, and adjusts how he documents exchanges.
- A queer parent finds language for nonbinary parenting roles, and builds a pod for ongoing support.
Macro Analysis: Support as Legal Infrastructure
Support is not fluff. It is infrastructure that improves compliance and clarity. Judges see better organized records. Attorneys work with more prepared clients. Litigants stay regulated enough to follow through on deadlines, disclosures, and court orders.
Courts and calendars
When people arrive regulated and prepared, calendars move and courts can evaluate substance over performance.
Attorneys and ethics
Client chaos is expensive. Reducing it increases ethical billing and better outcomes. See our Trust Center and Patents for how Splitifi handles data and method.
What Is Next for Sincerely Divorced
They are building steadily and intentionally.
Podcast launch
A season of conversations that are not trauma confessionals, but living strategy circles with breakdowns, tools, and glow ups.
Broader reach
Hope Notes in translation. Regional events beyond the Mid Atlantic. Partnerships with trauma informed legal and counseling groups.
Deeper strategy
Digital courses with clear outcomes and checklists that meet people where they are, including those who need pay what you can access.
Take control
Frequently asked questions
Is Sincerely Divorced a replacement for therapy or legal counsel
No. Sincerely Divorced is peer support and strategy. They often encourage participants to seek therapy or legal help when needed. Pair it with platforms like Divorce OS to keep your case on track.
How does Sincerely Divorced connect with Splitifi
Splitifi organizes deadlines, documents, and discovery. Sincerely Divorced provides calibrated human support. Use both. Plan in Splitifi, process with peers, then execute with clarity.
Can I join if I live outside Baltimore
Yes. They run digital groups and Zoom sessions for nationwide access. Follow @sincerelydivorced for updates.